The most beautiful thing in this world is the feeling you get after helping.

Ever felt like you help many, but you hardly get any help from others, or you help solve all sorts of problems of others, but cannot even get out of the problem of your own?

I feel that all the time, I don't know why but when it comes to solving my own problem I can't solve my problems, all my logical, critical and assessment abilities shut down and commit lot of blunders, can't able to take right decisions, my judgments go wrong and at end I come out as frustrated and irritated decision maker and that's what I call curse of being a counsellor

Well, the reason behind it is very simple and yet overcoming it is very hard, the reason why I or other who faces similar problem tend to take wrong decisions is that we lose our decision making capability in crisis or we fail to evaluate it properly, we fail to take notice of some important points which could have altered the decision and we realise this only after taking the decision, uff I forgot to take this into consideration :(
It happens to me a lot, only after making a decision, I realise I did not make the right decision, and then I regret it

What we wish to be true clouds our perception of what is true. Suffering is the moment when we can no longer deny reality.

- Naval Ravikant

Why does it happen?
When advising others we are emotionally detached think without any bias, and think clearly but when we think for ourselves, we are emotionally invested, we don't see clear facts anymore we see hopes, fears, failures, and many more things, I have many examples of it one of such is me leaving one paper due to fear of not able to score good and perhaps even failing and not able to complete the remaining syllabus within night, I could have taken right decision of taking the exam despite all this, had I had a friend who would have evaluated the situation correctly of what's good, but I made a wrong decision our of fear, hopes of scoring good in specials after preparing well and so on.

I wish I could have another Aditya to whom I could tell my situation and problems, and who would help me make the right decisions. Whatever I have observed, understood, and known myself, I really try to help the person in the best manner possible so that S/he can make a good decision for themselves, explain every nuance of it and if I am not able to help, at least give them the moral, emotional and all support that I can give. I usually don't praise or appreciate myself, but there are a few things about myself on which I don't hesitate to praise. One such thing is that I am a good counsellor (without a degree), always giving free advice on how to go about this or that.

If you have a friend or someone to whom you can take your problems, you are very lucky, as S/he is doing the job of thinking right for you, giving you a value-neutral and unbiased judgement. Value such a person or friend. Everyone doesn't get those kinds of friends and problem solvers, or what I call them- A free counsellor

Despite calling it the curse of being a counsellor, I own it and applaud it and getting free from this curse is not that difficult, just need to give good time before making judgment as if you're advising a second person; however, the best still would be to ask the person who knows you better and thinks well of you. So value people who bring value, happiness and make your life simple.

On this note, I take leave. I don't know how much you can relate to this piece or how helpful it will be to you, but I hope this at least makes you feel grateful towards the counsellors in your life. Remember, this counsellor doesn't always solve your problem, but stabilises you so you can think clearly and feel comfortable.

This time I didn't have much to write, kind of a writer's block, so pardon me, I'm Aditya, signing off until the next one.

Thank you for reading :)